By scattering pages with hashtags and stories of
The issue with this trend is the essence of the trend itself, as though shining a light is all that is needed to awaken those who do not see. Unfortunately, the purpose falls short because it’s missing one key ingredient. To highlight sexual abuse, we need people willing to listen; we need people to believe the stories. But if history shows us, people know. Even though it’s not as much as we’d like, rape culture, sexual assault and the vulnerabilities of being a woman are covered by the media and are a catalyst for the feminist movement.
Women want to be safe, but rape culture continues to play a significant role in women’s lives. After being raped by Brock Turner, Jane Doe was blamed for ruining a young man’s swimming career. Victims of Harvey Weinstein were questioned as to why they did not come forward sooner, which brought their credibility into the conversation. And in Australia, when Home and Away star Melissa George opened up about her abusive relationship, she was criticised for being so annoying she turned her husband against her.
The only thing more harrowing is it seems the one thing outweighing the number of victims is the number of studies hoping to understand why it happens in the first place and why victims continue not to be believed because the very people we’re aiming to see this injustice are already well aware. They have heard our cries, seen our stories and watched us suffer. They just think instead of our desire to walk down a dark street without keys slipping between our knuckles and the freedom of wearing a dress without doing a head count at an event, women are trying to blame others for WOMENS problems and trick them into believing things that are just not true.
They are already well aware of the problems we claim, they just either do not care or they simply do not believe us. Non-believers only see this trend as another avenue for trickery; another time where women are trying to seize power and blame others for getting beaten when they bothered their husband too much or getting too drunk at a party.
So posting your deepest stories in a public platform will only attract critics who will continue to question the “facts’ of the events they were not there to witness or interject themselves into the narrative they have no business interjecting into. Keep yourself safe. Share whatever you like, but I hope those who are courageous enough do so to liberate themselves, not others.